Saturday, December 15, 2012

Some advice for these two young people....

exactly 28 years from the day this picture was taken.

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To her: 

  • You know that butterfly feeling in your stomach whenever you see him? Remember it. Spend your lifetime continuing to pursue it. 
  • Never forget why you fell in love with him, even if some of those reasons drive you crazy about year 16. 
  • Don't force him to have the same goals in life that you do. You are different people. Instead, encourage him in the pursuit of HIS dreams. 
  • Never go to bed angry. 
  • Admit when you are wrong. It doesn't make you weak. It makes him love your vulnerability. 
  • Let go of  that stubbornness already. If you do some of those petty arguments won't even happen. 
  • You will feel like giving up many times. Don't. Keep praying. Keep forgiving. Keep loving. He will love you more because of it. 
  • Appreciate how protective he is of you and your feelings. One day you will think it is overbearing and controlling and you will try to push his efforts of protecting you away. He is simply loving you the way he knows best and will spend his lifetime trying to protect you from getting hurt. 

To him:

  • You know how you always take hold of her hand? Spend your lifetime doing that, especially when you don't feel like it. 
  • Never forget why you fell in love with her, even if some of those reasons force you to compromise so she doesn't have to.
  • Never go to bed angry. 
  • Admit when you are wrong. It doesn't make you weak. It makes her love your vulnerability. 
  • Right now....today on your wedding day and the days/months/years leading up to it....you are trying with all your might to be a perfect gentleman. Be that gentleman for your entire marriage. It's one of the enduring qualities she fell in love with. 
  • Never force her to be okay with your dangerous side. She loves you. She worries. She always will. 
  • Her heart is fragile. It will break at some point. As much as she loves you, she will love you more when you work diligently at repairing it regardless of who broke it. 

To both of them: 

  • For better or worse. Remember that. 
  • For richer or poorer. Remember that. 
  • In sickness and in health. Remember that, too. You will experience all of them. You will get through all of them. Together. With love and determination and prayer and tears and laughter and even a little regret. But you will get through all of them. 


Happy Anniversary to this very young couple who isn't so young anymore.

If you are interested in knowing more about this crazy couple, read the 25th Anniversary Post Here

 

2 comments:

  1. Oh, i love it, love it, love it, Cheri!

    You are about 20 years ahead of us (yeah, we met late in life - that makes it easier on some of the petty things), but i look forward to those additional 20 years.

    Hope your day is lovely! Happy, happy, happy day. :)

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  2. Decide to be a good person who will not be evil.
    Inherent in the offer of clone hosting is a clue:::"Earn" by hurting others. This violates this vow, causing people to incurr evil, and the clue you need to avoid it. Sadly, as young people too many are still corrupted, still unenlightened and make the mistake when offered.
    Only innocent pure children ascend into heaven, while evil is relegated to entering clone hosting, where they are reincarnated as lesser life forms. One day the Christian Rapture will be used as a "consolation prize", and usher in the era of compensation according to the Bible:::1000 years with Jesus on Earth.
    Everlasting life with Jesus, but only for true believers:::Placement to suffer on the next Planet Earth punishment for worshipping a false god.

    Disgraceful how little they allowed, how they fight tooth and nail, don't allow questions, force repression with AI because they have the freedom, etc.
    "You'll be sorry you didn't fight hard up until the end." Managing culpability isn't their only goal. Managing my compensation is another. They want freedom, they want control. Now they have it and can dictate how little time I get. But they didn't come up short on their goals. They got everything they wanted out of me. Plus they didn't have to put up with all these evil capitalists who fucked up, begging and praying for another chance simply because I work there when it really doesn't matter. The way it does matter is if they are too wrapped up in their current lives and fail to have a grasp on the reality before them. My working there could snap them out of their routine. But there are so many to try is pointless.

    Breaking my ankle at the Summitt was shamelessly gratuitous. The only purpose was to slow me down as I got older, ensuring I didn't continue hiking or being active.
    And they knew they were going to parlay hospitalization into cardiac cmplications, effectively doing the same.
    People don't believe me when I say the gods are monsters, saying it is specific to my life. We're all being set up for ugly, and Republican debt spending will lead to bankrupcy and the use of all these semi-automatic guns people are hoarding at these gun shows.
    The gods are ordering all proceedings still. If one day this changes it hasn't yet. Their vested interest is still very high.

    The gods may share some values of the conservatives (mostly good, a little evil), with the exception of capitalism, warmongering and environmental degredation, but they also share in the economic degredation of the conservatives which will bring the United States to bankrupcy and anarchy. It initiated with Ronald Reagan taking the National Debt from $1T to $6T.
    As long as the gods have this vested interest of the Situation they are calling the shots. They order all proceedings to ensure they get what they want. This is not to say they will transistion when it is over, but I suspect this final absolution of culpability is necessary for them to completely wash their hands of Earth in preparation for the Apocalypse.

    I am more important than Jesus. Jesus is just some guy the gods used to fuck the poeple up.
    Jesus is like Heath Ledger or perhaps SNL early '90s:::Used to promote homosexuality. Jesus entered this envionment with an evil mindset, and why the gods used him and his legacy in that capacity. Now people globally worship this false god, creating this dual system the Antients will use to create the perception of reward in an alternate reality envionment.
    To every yin there is a yang:::Ascend into heaven as a child is good while "clone hosting" or Apocalypse leading to "1000 years with Jesus on Earth" is evil. Remember what I said::Only the TRUE believers in Jesus will have eternal life, placed on the next Planet Earth to re-experience thousands of years of the birth, life and death life cycle, suffering from overwork, 18 hour days, hunger and misery.

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